In a few weeks, our recently moved-into home will undergo a
process of deconstruction. Demolition of the old kitchen walls,
a steel beam put in place to support upstairs and hopefully, a
bright, shiny new kitchen and dining area will evolve in the
large new space.
Itís quite a daunting project for me, but I keep telling myself
this is the last time weíre doing anything like this; Iím
visualising the end result. We were originally looking for a
much more sensible home; no restoration or nasty surprises.
ButÖwe found the home where we had to be; it ticked nearly all
of our boxes and so a compromise was made.
There will be lots of noise, dust and rubble ahead as the
builders knock down all the old walls and remove the tired old
kitchen units. Thatís the tough bit Ė a few weeks of camping out
and disruption of the daily flow. Iím taking the first noisy
week off and then after that, viewing my new office at the other
end of the house as a retreat.
As I write this, I can feel how calm it is in here. Itís a large
room, a converted part of a barn, so it has vast sloping
ceilings and is difficult to heat through this unusually cold
winter out here. However, the room is filled with my beloved
books, plants and a couple of comfy sofas, and I love it.
Itís taken four years to reach this place. Iíd had to work out
of our old living room in our first French home before this;
itís only now that I can see how Ďblockedí Iíd become by not
creating that separate space to work and write in. I hadnít set
a clear goal; just assuming that my office would somehow take
shape one day. It didnít.
Iíve learned that it really is important to separate home and
work in some meaningful way; make a boundary, even if it can
only be a mental one, especially for those of us who work from
home. In the UK, I was lucky enough to have an office at the end
of the garden, so that short walk there was the separation and I
didnít Ďcome homeí until Iíd finished work.
Sometimes we find that, through circumstance or choice, our
walls come tumbling down around us and we have to rebuild our
lives or some part of our life. To reconstruct effectively, itís
a very good idea to plan ahead and set our goals, once weíre
ready to do that. The planning stage always seems to take much
longer than the actual build, and there are alterations along
the way as we find out what will work best, for us. Only doing
what other people suggest, if we consciously choose that for
ourselves as a good thing to do.
Finally, if we didnít make mistakes, have the odd tumble, weíd
never really learn very much at all. Itís easy to forget that
the most successful people have failed many times before they
reached their goal. What does success really mean to you,
anyway? It doesnít have to be traditional. Thatís another topic